These words disturb me...
I've decided relationships should grow smoothly out of friendships.
When you have problems, I'll be there for you, night after night.
Selflessly.
I'll tear down the jerks you date, and wait for you to realize how good I am for you. That only I will ever understand you.
You won't want to hurt my feelings, and I won't ever force the issue. I'll tell myself it's because I "value our friendship."
Bit by bit, I'll make you depend on me.
You'll think about how long it would take to build this kind of connection again.
And in a moment of weakness
and loneliness
you'll give in.
It'll feel comfortable and natural. You'll quietly revise your definition of love and try to be happy. And sometimes you will be.
Only the wistfulness in your gaze and the tiny pause before you say "I love you" will hint that this wasn't the ending you'd hoped for.
~Randall Munroe
I used to think that relationships should grow out of friendships. I used to think that that was the smartest way to do things because you would already know the person and be building a relationship on top of the base of a strong friendship.
These days I'm not so sure.
Because a heart that doesn't burn for you isn't worth the pain that hearts bring. And a heart that doesn't burn for you shouldn't cheat itself.
The Creature Behind the Blog
- Warrior-Poet
- Michael is a fairly average working man (when did that happen?) with an undying imagination and a sarcastic (and slightly black) sense of humor. In his spare time, he battles dragons and rescues damsels in a world that exists only in his own mind. Sometimes he forays into the real world, promptly realizes it was a bad idea, and returns home to his brain castle. He has been known to, on occasion, refer to himself in the third person.
3 comments:
Some people say that because women are more relational/personality oriented them getting to know you can make you more attractive to them. Leading to the burning. Versus guys being visually oriented and being able to tell right away whether a girl makes them burn or not.
I have no idea if that's true or not.
I've heard a lot of girls say (including me) that they were surprised to find themselves attracted to a person they initially didn't find attractive at all, just from getting to know and interact with them over time as friends. I completely agree that the relational/personality aspect is a strong factor for some people. But not all. And I'm not sure it's a gender thing either. I'm amazed by how many girls entertain CFAs (crushes from afar) for years (!!!) on people they hardly know at all. Others don't even notice guys who are not already a good friend or log-term acquaintance. People are crazy.
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